I help newly (self) diagnosed AuDHD'ers find connection with self and others through radical self-exploration.

As a queer neurodivergent human, much of my life has felt like an attempt to make electronic music in a world that continues to prioritize classical. Landing on the labels AuDHD and polyamorous allowed me to see myself for the first time as something separate from my struggles because the language offered me a chance to unpack ablism and toxic compulsory monogamy in a productive way, both for myself and my relationships. I wasn’t “unorganized”, I was focused on everything at once in a way that makes me a great listener. I didn’t “have a difficulty focusing”, I was focused on what fascinated me like reading and drawing and creating art which in my life has wholly allowed me to find and feel my feelings. I wasn’t “struggling to sit still”, I was using my body to somatically self-regulate and sometimes just to experience joy! I didn’t “get obsessed with things”, I was hugely passionate about very specific things like sims, fashion design/ sewing, and human sexuality, all of which deeply inform my therapeutic approach/ lens and continue to be “special interests” that allow me to explore patterns in a serious but playful way. 

I don’t experience “pathological demand avoidance” (PDA) autism, I have a sensitivity to “persistent demand” placed on individuals and our relationships in modern society (like capitalism, sexism, racism, government structures, religious influence, etc.). I aim to use my passion, love of learning (particularly around approaches like EMDR and IFS), and lived experience to guide my work in supporting others through the process of reclaiming a “self” that is deserving of love, care and connection. 

I believe everyone in this complicated ant colony is deserving of agency, safety, and support from the community. We thrive as humans when we have space to see ourselves as individual/ separate as well as integrated/connected to something larger than ourselves. Through an intersectional and interdependence-informed lens, I prioritize exploration of self in relation to our context so that each of us have room to observe our own experience on this planet with compassion and guidance, especially when unpacking oppressive, patriarchal, and shame-based contexts.

As a PDA’er, I also very much prioritize agency/ freedom in the therapeutic process. I recognize I hold inherent power in a paid support position and I do what I can to provide my clients choice/ space to say no at every step because I very much believe healing should be self- led; we know ourselves best, sometimes we just need help listening! 

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